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PROJECT TALK + LISTEN is my personal practice and experiment to talk openly and listen empathetically. (I wrote about why I created this project HERE.)

It’s a chance to work with two experiences:

(1) Talking with genuineness and transparency.
(2) Listening from the other’s point of view without judgment, evaluation, approval or disapproval of the statements.

(It's not a discussion.)

PROJECT TALK + LISTEN is also an invitation to join me in this practice!

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Invite someone to have a Talk Listen experience.

Choose a topic from the list.

Read, listen, watch, or look at the topic.

Do this:

1. Describe what you saw, heard, or read.

Though it sounds absurdly simple, describing is hard to do! This quote helps me understand how to describe and why it's challenging and important:

"Describing is a process of overall observing, particular noticing, and telling what you see or otherwise sense...To describe is to name it and its characteristics and qualities...People seem to believe that if what they are asked to describe is in front of you and them, then they think there is no need to say what they see because they wrongly assume that we all see the same things in the same way. We do not. We look at things differently, we notice different aspects, and we use different words when we tell about what we see." - Terry Barrett, CRITS (in contract, Bloomsbury Publishing, London)

2. Complete each of these two sentences in paragraphs.

When I see/read/listen/watch _____, I think _____ …

When I see/read/listen/watch _____, I feel _____ …

3. Later, reflect on your experience and, if you choose, share your insights with your partner. On topic pages, I'll share aspects or insights from my Talk and Listen experiences.

That's it! You're ready to choose a topic and begin.

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Got one?

When you're ready, click the hot-linked word "HERE" in the topic you've chosen to begin.

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In Tirely is a photograph made by William Wegman, an American artist best known for his photographs of dogs, primarily his own Weimaraners in various costumes and poses. Choose this topic HERE.

We see things differently
In Tirely is a photograph made by William Wegman, an American artist best known for his photographs of dogs, primarily his own Weimaraners in various costumes and poses. Choose this topic HERE.

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The Day I Became A Bird is an illustrated story about relationships and feelings. It's a story of a little boy who transforms himself to capture the attention of the one he loves. Choose this topic HERE.

The day I became a bird
The Day I Became A Bird is an illustrated story about relationships and feelings. It's a story of a little boy who transforms himself to capture the attention of the one he loves. Choose this topic HERE.

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Leonard is on death row and in this 4-minute video from the film HUMAN, he talks about his experience of love. Choose this topic HERE.

Love from an unlikely place
Leonard is on death row and in this 4-minute video from the film HUMAN, he talks about his experience of love. Choose this topic HERE.

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This is a video of Patti Smith singing at a ceremony honoring Bob Dylan's 2016 Nobel Prize honor for literature. She chose to sing, A Hard Rain’s A-Gonna Fall, a Dylan song with lyrics asking hard questions. When Smith sang, she got nervous. Choose this topic HERE.

Answering hard questions
This is a video of Patti Smith singing at a ceremony honoring Bob Dylan's 2016 Nobel Prize honor for literature. She chose to sing, A Hard Rain’s A-Gonna Fall, a Dylan song with lyrics asking hard questions. When Smith sang, she got nervous. Choose this topic HERE.

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Two drawing series made by Chinese artist, Huang He. The titles are: Kill with words series and Kill with a pen series. Choose this topic HERE.

Hurting with speech and pen
Two drawing series made by Chinese artist, Huang He. The titles are: Kill with words series and Kill with a pen series. Choose this topic HERE.

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Andy Nelson was diagnosed with late stage colon cancer in October of 2016. After meeting with both the colon and liver surgeons at Mayo Clinic, his doctors recommended chemotherapy and two surgeries that could save his life. This is a brief journal entry Michael Nelson, “the love of Andy’s life,” writes just before the second and most risky surgery. Choose this topic HERE.

Just before a loved one has surgery
Andy Nelson was diagnosed with late stage colon cancer in October of 2016. After meeting with both the colon and liver surgeons at Mayo Clinic, his doctors recommended chemotherapy and two surgeries that could save his life. This is a brief journal entry Michael Nelson, “the love of Andy’s life,” writes just before the second and most risky surgery. Choose this topic HERE.

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Fred Rogers testified before the Senate Subcommittee on Communication for PBS funding on May 1, 1969. He described his work and why it's worthy of support to Senator John Pastore (D-RI), who was unfamiliar with Rogers and Mister Rogers' Neighborhood, and to the Committee. Six minutes later, Rogers secured $20 million in funding. Choose this topic HERE.

Influencing others
Fred Rogers testified before the Senate Subcommittee on Communication for PBS funding on May 1, 1969. He described his work and why it's worthy of support to Senator John Pastore (D-RI), who was unfamiliar with Rogers and Mister Rogers' Neighborhood, and to the Committee. Six minutes later, Rogers secured $20 million in funding. Choose this topic HERE.

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Marie Howe, writing teacher and poet laureate of New York, says that the moral life is lived out in what we say as much as what we do. She's interviewed by Krista Tippet, host and executive producer of On Being. Choose this topic HERE.

Poems and feeling ourselves alive
Marie Howe, writing teacher and poet laureate of New York, says that the moral life is lived out in what we say as much as what we do. She's interviewed by Krista Tippet, host and executive producer of On Being. Choose this topic HERE.

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In 1996, Thordis Elva shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student from Australia. After a school dance, Tom raped Thordis. In this 19-minute TED talk, Elva and Stanger move through a years-long chronology of shame and silence. Choose this topic HERE.

Rape, responsibility, reconciliation
In 1996, Thordis Elva shared a teenage romance with Tom Stranger, an exchange student from Australia. After a school dance, Tom raped Thordis. In this 19-minute TED talk, Elva and Stanger move through a years-long chronology of shame and silence. Choose this topic HERE.

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To download and print a copy of the directions to have with you when you participate in this practice, click HERE.