Image credit: On Being, the interview of Marie Howe.
TOPIC: Poems and feeling ourselves alive
Project Talk + Listen is a practice to talk openly and listen empathetically.
It's an experiment and invitation to work with two experiences: talking with genuineness and transparency and listening from the other's point of view without judgment, evaluation, approval, or disapproval of the statements.
Invite someone to have a Talk + Listen experience.
Aim for 30 minutes total. Each person gets half the time to talk and listen.
Talk transparently. Listen quietly.
Agree to be curious, flexible, open, and courageous.
Sit, stand, or walk as you talk or listen. It's up to you.
Listen to Krista Tippett of On Being interview Marie Howe. If you prefer, read the transcript of the interview.
1. Describe what you see. This might sound absurdly simple. It's not. Describing is challenging. This quote explains how to describe and why it's important:
Describing is a process of overall observing, particular noticing, and telling what you see or otherwise sense...To describe is to name it and its characteristics and qualities...People seem to believe that if what they are asked to describe is in front of you and them, then they think there is no need to say what they see because they wrongly assume that we all see the same things in the same way. We do not. We look at things differently, we notice different aspects, and we use different words when we tell about what we see. - Terry Barrett, CRITS (in contract, Bloomsbury Publishing, London)
2. Complete each of these two sentences in paragraphs.
When I saw or heard _____, I thought _____ …
When I saw or heard _____, I felt _____ ...
3. Later, reflect on your Talk + Listen experience. If you choose, share an insight with your partner.